A Letter
This comes from a young, single male. I thought I would give you a small glimpse into the mind of a single 22-year-old guy, just in case you were ever wondering what to shoot for. I hope this is beneficial.
Dear Young, Single Female,
If you are wondering what it will take for me to like you…
Take care to look gorgeous — like very gorgeous. By all means, be in great physical shape. Use makeup to produce that beautiful, blemish-free face. Wear something that will really grab my attention, even if it’s a little suggestive. Do all you can to become picture-perfect. Be very friendly, and maybe even a little flirty towards me. It doesn’t hurt to advertise a little bit.
Follow these instructions, and there’s a real good chance that you’ll get me to like you.
If you are wondering what it will take for me to love you…
First, forget all about my first answer.
Make me respect you. Make me admire you. Strive to become a beautiful woman on the inside. Cling to God and let His love radiate through you. Although it’s important and certainly has its place, do not be too concerned about your physical appearance. First and foremost, strive to be a knockout on the inside.
Be humble. Be confident. Be genuine. Don’t compromise. Don’t worry about the latest fads, the latest trends. Stick to the truth, just because it’s the truth. Don’t try to be anything that you’re not. Don’t try to impress me. Just be who you are, as a young woman following God.
Have a servant’s heart. Forget about yourself and your wants, but just focus on others. Live as if their needs were more important than yours, and honestly believe that.
It’s still important to be physically fit and to be attractive, but these need to be secondary to your unwavering love for Jesus. I know the culture is screaming at you to pull out all the stops in making yourself as pleasing to the eye as possible. Please, please don’t buy into it. Don’t think you need to go tanning, bleach your teeth, or wear a ton of makeup. I want to love you for you, as imperfect as you may feel. Keep in mind that I’m human, too. I want to be amazed by you, not by your potential as a cover girl.
Also, remember your worth. Let me apologize on behalf of all modern-day men for the cheap way that the culture looks at women. It’s really awful, and I know it’s not true. Help break that lie. Don’t sell yourself short. Let me fight to reach your high standards. Make me pay the high price in order to win you. Dare to find out if it’s true that there really is somebody worth waiting for.
This will take a lot of patience, a lot of self-control, and a lot of courage. But understand that those are three of the qualities that will just make me all the more amazed by you.
Finally, don’t try too hard. Have faith that I’ll find you, and that you won’t have to manipulate anything. Trust God, that if you are faithfully living in obedience to Him, He will take care of the rest. Don’t worry about what kind of guy-catching power you’re going to have. As strange as it sounds, the less it looks like you are
trying to compete, the more appealing you’re going to be to me. Just focus on fulfilling your regular day-to-day responsibilities. God will orchestrate this if we let Him.
It is very true that a woman of this caliber is rare. But so are diamonds. Dare to turn yourself into this kind of a woman, and just see if I won’t give it all away for that one precious jewel.
Follow these instructions, and there is a real good chance that you’ll find me honestly wondering just how it is that God has blessed me with such an incredible young lady.I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Luke Arndt